An Open Letter to the Single Girl on Valentine's Day

Hi Sister!

I know that you aren't looking forward to the dreaded "day of love". You're likely wondering why you don't have a boyfriend to bring you roses and swoon over you. You might have plans with your girlfriends to get dressed up super cute and have a drink or two to get your mind off of things, or just like so many others, you might be annoyed seeing all the mushy gushy social media posts. I know how you feel, because I've been there too.

I remember attending a party on this day in years past. It was a party where I was the only person in attendance, but I decided to bring Ben and Jerry along so I didn't feel so left out. You guessed it, it was my own pity party. Looking back on those days, I regret choosing that pity for myself, because just like you, I truly had SO much love in my life. No, I didn't have a boyfriend to take me on a date, but I did have friends that absolutely adored my friendship, parents who were always there for me, and a Heavenly Father who loved(s) me unconditionally. Guess what sister, you also likely have friends and/or parents who love and appreciate you, and I know your Father loves you, but do you know that?

 I know this day can be hard but, if you shift your thoughts to what you do have instead of what you don't have, and if you are grateful for those things, then you will see just how much love is already in your life. Being single is such a blessing and you need to think of it that way instead of thinking it's a burden. In this season of your life you should be learning who you are as an individual. Grow your faith. Work extra hard at the office. Get into the best shape of your life. Save your money. Travel. Use this season as a growing season and to prepare yourself for the one that God has in store for you! The truth is, if you can't see it as a growing season, you are likely wasting time or leading yourself down a path that God does not want for you. If I wanted that for you, I wouldn't be talking to you right now, so please be patient during this season of singleness and know that what God has planned is specifically for you, and it is a good thing! You only need to believe and trust in that.

Now that I've covered the faith aspect with you, I want you to STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS! Yes, I am guilty of doing this, but girlfriend, once you realize that everyone has their struggles and we are all perfectly imperfect you will feel the weight of the world lift from your shoulders. Not everyone that is in a relationship is in a healthy, Godly relationship. Just because some of your girlfriends always seem to have a boyfriend it doesn't mean your friend has confidence. It doesn't mean she respects herself and is living a Christ-like life to get those boyfriends. Another person's relationship status does not mean that you aren't worthy of a good man. It does not mean that something is wrong with you and it does not mean that God doesn't have a wonderful man waiting for you. It just means that this season of singleness is building you up for something that far exceeds your expectations! 

Please, I beg of you, don't lose sight of your worth, confidence, or trust in the Lord all because society believes that being single means you are damaged goods. That's just simply not true! The world's version of what love is is so far away from what God says love is and it breaks my heart that you may not even realize that.

I want you to promise me that you will do whatever it takes to not get down on yourself on this day. Promise me that you will be thankful for the love that is in your life on a daily basis and that you will remember the promises that God has already made for you and will deliver upon.

You are worth more than a "like" on social media, a fancy dinner, and even the finest gems found in this world. You will find that special someone when He feels you are ready for it. Don't lose sight of who you are because of this one day. If anything, you should be preparing your heart for the man He has in store for you and the last thing you should do is always keep your head held high. You wouldn't want Mr. Right to miss your smile now would you?! ;)

XOXO,

Hayley

Encouraging Verses for You: 1 John 4:16-18, Deuteronomy 7:9, Psalm 107:8-9, Psalm 63:3, Proverbs 17:17, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7